Guide

Dating (GrindrR)

Swipe, match, three dates each. Fourteen profiles, two of every flavour.

Quick facts

App: GrindrR on the phone
Swipe cost: 5 Energy (3 with the Dating Boost perk)
On match: +3 Arousal
Date cadence: Per NPC: one date, then a 3-day cooldown
Arc shape: 3 stages per NPC, stage 3 repeats
Profiles: 14 matchable (8 free, 6 Patreon)

TL;DR

GrindrR is the phone’s dating app and the hub for fourteen matchable NPCs, each with a three-stage date arc whose final stage cycles repeatable variants. Swiping costs Energy, matches give a little Arousal, and dates run as forced events with their own Energy / Time costs. Femininity gates control who surfaces and which stages unlock; the masc-route partners invert that and gate on you NOT being caged or dressed femme instead.

How the app works

First open. The app asks you to pick a profile style. The two options are Discreet and Sissy; on a masc-path run the first option is framed as Direct instead.

Browse. You get one swipe card at a time. Passing puts that profile on a 3-day cooldown before it can reappear. Liking costs 5 Energy (3 with the Dating Boost perk), sets the match flag, and gives +3 Arousal. The pool only shows profiles you can actually act on: your Femininity must meet the profile’s requirement, Patreon profiles are hidden on the free build, already-matched and cooling-down profiles are skipped, and two of the masc-route partners have continuity unlocks (Rachel needs the office job, Mara needs a gym membership). Profiles you can’t see yet show as teasers with their Fem requirement.

Connections. Matched NPCs appear with a heart meter (0-3), their current message, and a Meet Up button showing the stage’s Energy and Time cost. Each stage can carry its own Femininity gate on top of the profile’s. Clicking Meet Up launches the date as a forced event; it ends back at your apartment.

Cadence. After a date, that NPC goes on a 3-day cooldown. The lock is per NPC, not global: a coffee date with Tyler at noon doesn’t stop you from seeing Patrick in the evening.

Stage 3 repeats. Every arc’s final stage is a dispatcher that cycles three scene variants, so maxed relationships keep producing new content instead of ending. Reaching stage 3 with anyone fires the dating_stage3 achievement.

Everyone you can match

Match	Tier	Fem gates (stages 1/2/3)	Who they are
Tyler	Free	10 / 20 / 30	Curious swimmer jock, FWB arc that discovers his dominant side.
Kai	Free	10 / 20 / 35	Tender femboy romance, boba, nails, sleepovers.
Owen	Free	15 / 25 / 40	The older neighbor, slow burn, domestic.
Raven	Free	20 / 30 / 40	Exhibitionist wild card, public dares.
Rachel	Free	none	Office receptionist, hetero romance, unlocks once you’re hired at the office.
Mara	Free	none	Gym trainer, you top, unlocks with a gym membership.
Cole	Free	none	Bi twink you take in hand, the masc-on-masc beat.
Richard	Free	25 / 30 / 35	Sugar daddy arrangement, the income arc of the app.
Scar	Patreon	20 / 30 / 40	Genderfluid tailor, romantic tease (custom NPC by ScarletMemory).
Vincent	Patreon	25 / 35 / 45	Cold, transactional degradation dom.
Patrick	Patreon	30 / 40 / 50	Poly pleasure dom, worship not degradation (custom NPC by Lee McG).
Eloïse	Patreon	40 / 50 / 60	French domme, shibari and BDSM (custom NPC by Blue Owl).
Sasha	Patreon	40 / 50 / 60	Sissy streamer, matching outfits (custom NPC by Sasha Black).
Hank	Patreon	20 / 25 / 30	Gentle widower DILF, woodworker, slow-burn romance that never rushes you (custom NPC by Hursk).

The masc-route partners (Rachel, Mara, Cole) have no Femininity gates at all. Their gate runs the other way: every stage declines a PC who arrives wearing a chastity cage or feminine clothes, with a no-penalty scene that leaves the arc intact. A declined date doesn’t burn your date slot or their cooldown.

The orientation card

The character creator’s “who are you drawn to?” card (women / men / both) sets orientation_lean, a -5 to +5 value where negative leans men and positive leans women. It biases which profile the Browse screen deals you more often. It never restricts access: every candidate stays in the pool, the aligned gender is just dealt more frequently. Eloïse counts as a woman for the lean. On a masc-path run the masc-route partners are additionally boosted in the deal, keyed on their route flag rather than gender, so Cole (a man) is boosted right alongside Rachel and Mara while the feminizing dates stay reachable if you deliberately swipe them.

Patreon on the free build

The six “muse” NPCs (Scar, Vincent, Eloïse, Sasha, Patrick, Hank) are Patreon-exclusive. On the free build they can match, but every date stage gets gated: their messages politely cancel and the date doesn’t resolve. See Patreon Vs Free for the full content split.

Quick Hookup

Once you have 3 or more matches, a Quick Hookup button appears on the app’s home screen: a one-off anonymous encounter for 10 Energy, requiring Arousal 15+ and Femininity 8+. The scenes rotate. It isn’t offered on a masc-path run, since the content is bottom-oriented with no in-scene backout.

Where dating leads

Some arcs unlock follow-up content outside the app:

Kai at stage 2+ can be invited down to the playroom for his own three-stage chain, and cameos in the gym yoga class.
Vincent at stage 2+ can be invited into the basement workshop (the invite gate is free, but reaching stage 2 with Vincent needs Patreon, so the chain stays Patreon in practice).
Eloïse had a basement workshop chain of her own; it was built but pulled in v0.2.7 pending a LoRA retrain, so the invite doesn’t surface yet.
Richard is less a romance than a revenue stream; his arc escalates into a paid arrangement with weekly income at higher commitment.

Masculine Route, the route that adds Rachel, Mara and Cole and the orientation card.
Patreon Vs Free, what the free build does with muse NPC dates.
Stats, how Femininity gates work in general.